A CAUTIONARY TALE:

A couple of great people I know got married. When the wife lost her job, the husband told her to think positively. He meant it in the best way, as she hated her job. But her mind raced with negative thoughts and so she saw him as being insensitive.

Her fear of the future and of being abandonned made her obsessed with worst case scenarios. Eventually, he felt inadequate and helpless around her and left. Thus, some of her worst fears came true. Then she believed her negative thoughts even more.   

TO CONSIDER....

When we try to think "positively", or advise others to do so, we attract "negative" responses -- from within and without. 

As well, when we think negatively, we attract "negative" thinking people and push away "positive" ones.

In the example of the couple, if the husband was able to say something like, "Ah... tell me more..." and listen and just accept her fears -- no matter how unfounded they may have seemed, then maybe a path for change could have opened up.

Our desire to hold onto only the positive or negative side, is what makes us stuck and repeat ourselves - reinforcing the thoughts we already have.

At the same time, when we think "true" thoughts, that accept reality in all its dimensions, like...

"This _____ that I'm thinking and/or feeling, is just as it is it."

...we make ourselves both more whole and more free. 

When we accept reality and choose "true" thoughts, we can see the value of both the "positive" and the "negative". We can respond to what is actually happening as it is happening. And, we can accept anybody, no matter what they think or feel, simply as somebody thinking or feeling one way or another.

Do you know any "real" or "true" thoughts? Ones which are true no matter what? 

If so, please post them below.